Are you listening? Hello? Is this thing EVEN on?!
No one feels like they are being heard and, be it adult to adult, adult to child, or even spouse to spouse, we struggle just as much to listen to what others say.
Do we really have a “communication problem” plaguing society today?
On this episode of 'I am the Worst Parent Ever' podcast, Nicole contends that it's natural (maybe innate or developed) for the busy, stressed-out parent to immediately begin to problem solve when someone starts speaking. We flip into “fix it” mode. We get aggressive with our fast-paced thinking, searching desperately for a "problem" to solve. Some of us even create new problems!
We drive our “word vehicle” right into the other person’s lane, forcing them to stop or veer off the road. We leave them feeling utterly displaced. When we are in “fix it” mode, how do we stop OUR wheels from turning?
So what can you do?
What? Can't slow down?
Then merely decrease your brain and physical speed as much as reasonably possible.
Look your conversation partner in the eye. It's hard to ignore someone and their words when you are visibly and literal eye-to-eye engaged with them.
Listen (pun intended), listening is a balancing game. Try to mimic the listening behavior that you want to receive when you hold the verbal floor.
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