You feel like you should be loving and compassionate all the time, morning to night. But let’s be honest. Sometimes your kids get under your skin and that frustration slips out sideways. You can try to turn it into a joke as it comes out of your mouth, but … you find yourself “labeling.”
We do it all the time: My spouse is so selfish. My co-worker is lazy. My boss is an a--.
Is it ever OK to label your children? “They know I’m joking, right?”
Nicole admits that she jokes that her son can turn into a one-kid wrecking ball in stores. She calls him “Wreck-It Ralph” to get his attention and prevent further breakage. She isn’t trying to box him in or hurt his feelings, just modify his behavior. But she wonders if other parents judge her: “Ugh, did you hear that lady calling her kids names? What a bad parent!”
Today we field a listener question: “What do you say when you hear another parent bad-mouthing their kids… in front of their kids?”
Robert and Nicole discuss what you can do when you reach your "wits' end." Listen in to figure out how to find the energy to connect with your children, even when you are exasperated. Parenting can undoubtedly be the most challenging job, but you can stop freaking out and keep from giving up when things get tough. Instead, get tough (and honest) with yourself so you can PUT IN THE WORK.
You will bend over backward, twist yourself into a pretzel, and wring yourself dry to take care of the little ones in our life. How about you? Is taking care of yourself a luxury? Can you allow yourself the time? Is that allowed?
There's something to be said for getting yourself for a massage or taking a night out with friends, but real self-love and long-term self-preservation starts with speaking your truth. Can you #brag about your wins? Can you ask the universe for what you really #desire? And can you slow down long enough to give thanks for everyday gifts? #gratitude
In this episode, Nicole and Robert put their money where their mouths are: we put our own Brags, Desires, and Gratitudes out on the table. It can feel uncomfortable, awkward, and vulnerable to #speakyourtruth. Why? Because it is A FORM OF SELF-CARE. And that’s not allowed!!
When you are a parent, you never feel like you have time to take care of yourself. Use this 5-minute trick to dip into these three pots daily. You will get a longer-term gain than that glass of wine or chocolate bar.
Where the f*ck is my phone? And where are my keys?
Honey, you left the van door open.
Is it mom brain?
Is it #allthethings brain?
Is it your flippin' hot mess brain?
And the even bigger questions:
Is there anything that can really be done about it? Is there some way to be more efficient and feel less stress?
Robert and Nicole debate if it’s realistic for parents (especially with younger children) to actually slow down and set up a system of checks and balances. We also practice a habit you can use to “put a flag” in your small wins. Pretty soon, you will be weaving your wins together to see your day as the huge success it probably was.
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